Change Your Perspectives on Parenting
Your child is not a doll
Your child is NOT a doll. Your child does not need your constant care or attention. For example, If you give your baby a bubble bath every day, your baby’s skin can become dry and flaky. Soon, your baby may suffer serious eczema. (To solve serious eczema, bathe your baby in clean water, and only wash the diaper area with soap. You may see his/her eczema slowly disappear in a few weeks.)
Your child is a human, just like you. When your child is hungry, he/she will look for food. When your child is scared, he/she will seek your comfort.
When you give your child constant care and attention, your child will seldom get thirsty, hungry, or upset. Then your child will lose the opportunities and motivation to feel his/her needs, learn how to express his/her needs, and how to meet his/her needs. As your child grows older, he/she can have serious problems expressing his/her needs and ideas, and taking the initiative for self-care and learning.
Consequently, please stop meeting all your child’s needs automatically, without any of his/her own efforts. Instead, always treat your child like a normal child. Live your own life and work like normal parents.
Your child is NOT a robot
Your child is NOT a robot. Your child does not operate only with constant instructions from you or other people.
Your child is a human, just like you. When your child is extremely bored, he/she will seek your attention, learn from you, play with siblings and friends, and explore his/her own ideas and interests.
Consequently, please stop occupying all your child’s time and attention with learning, activities, and entertainment. Cut off your child’s video games and social media. Restrict your child’s exposure to a few very good educational apps, websites, books, songs, TV shows and movies only. Make your child extremely bored. Then your child will be a lot more motivated to learn and interact in real life.
